The question has been popped, the ring is on your finger, and the planning has begun!
There’s a lot that goes into turning your dream wedding into a reality: the ceremony, reception, guest list, dress, attendants, flowers, centerpieces... the list is miles long.
While you certainly need to plan for your wedding day, it’s even more important to plan for the rest of your married life together.
Before we consider the benefits of premarital counseling, let's first discuss two common myths about counseling that might create hesitation for some couples.
“Openly discussing problems could just bring up more problems and create tension.”
This couldn’t be further from the truth. Discussing your problems is an open invitation for honesty. It’s important to vocalize the issues you have in order to find workable solutions. By remaining silent, problems can fester and resentment can build. Actually counseling can give you the tools to have conversations about difficult or sensitive topics that can lead to greater understanding.
“Only couples with really big problems go to counseling.”
Even the healthiest relationships hit road bumps at times. It can be very productive to learn how to prevent or, at least, minimize those road bumps if or when they occur. Marriage is about sharing the ups and downs of life as a partnership. Establishing good relationship ‘habits’ now can pay off later.
Don’t let these myths prevent you from reaping the benefits of premarital counseling, including—but not limited to—a lower risk of divorce or serious problems later on.
Premarital Counseling Can Help You Secure a Stable, Satisfying Marriage
The following are some of the benefits of premarital counseling:
Better communication skills
With the help of professional, couples are encouraged to openly communicate their wants, needs, and expectations for their marriage. By learning how to openly communicate prior to getting married, you have a good head start on proper communication and problem solving later on in your marriage.
With the excitement of your engagement and the wedding planning process, nobody can blame you for not thinking about life thirty years down the line. But if you want to create a roadmap for your future, you need to be preparing as best as you can. In premarital counseling, you’ll discuss things that you might not have thought of on your own. You can benefit from talking with a professional as well as friends and relatives with years of marital wisdom.
Communication is a vital part of any healthy relationship. It’s also a key component in appropriately managing conflict. Conflict is inevitable in all relationships. The key to successful marriages is how you manage conflict and disagreements when they arise.
Learn something new
No matter how long you’ve been dating, there is still more to discover about your partner. Sometimes it’s a cute quirk, and sometimes it’s an annoying habit. During premarital counseling, you’ll have conversations that you might not have in your daily life. You’ll learn something about your partner that you weren’t aware of before. Sometimes these conversations can be uncomfortable (i.e. discussion about past dating lives). But you can be properly equipped to handle them.